Legal advice about abusive boyfriend??

i'm not sure if it would be beneficial to take my ex boyfriend to court or not, and i need some advice. for the past couple months he has choked me, hit me, etc. as well as abused me verbally, basically ruined my life, and caused me to try to kill myself several times (the police were involved). my last boyfriend was horrible to me too, although not to this extent, so i don't know if everyone will just assume it's something wrong with me. i do have some mental health problems, mostly depression, but also some other things, and i don't know if those will be used against me. they've gotten worse since dating him.


we got in a fist fight once, a couple weeks ago, so obviously i hit him too. i haven't before or since then, but he does it on a regular basis. i called the police the other day when he grabbed me really hard in the mall and caused my arm to bruise, but i decided not to press charges in the end, i was just really scared.


i was wondering if i have any sort of a case? please help?Legal advice about abusive boyfriend??
I speak from personal experience. First, gather your important documents when he is not there (birth certificate, insurance papers, legal documents, social security card, ID, etc.), take a few things you need (medicine, cell phone, etc.) and LEAVE immediately. Then call a shelter for victims of domestic violence and seek refuge there. They have counselors to guide you in obtaining a restraining order so he will be court-ordered to stay away from you, or be arrested.





It is good that you have called the police in the past. That started a ';paper trail'; which will help your case. You have been hurt by this man, and in time you will heal. Be patient with your self. Love should not hurt. If it does, it is not love.





Your life can and will improve, but not until you seek safety. We know that domestic violence only increases in intensity over time. Please do not wait until it gets any worse! I beg you.





You made the first step by contacting Y!A for help. The next step is outlined above. Do not be afraid. Once you leave, the worst if behind you.





Feel free to email me if you have any questions I can help you answer. I have been there, and life is so much better without the abuse! You do not deserve to be abused. No one does.





You are in my thoughts and prayers.Legal advice about abusive boyfriend??
kill him....nah im j/k
Yes, you certainly have a very strong case and you should press charges. Your mental health is irrelevant. He cannot treat you like that regardless of your health.





Also, get yourself a good counselor/therapist if you haven't already.
go to the police...now...get away from him before you end up dead...please tell some one that can really help you about it...you need protection...goodluck and dont think twice about it...do it now...goodluck and God bless you...
Why are you still with this brute? Are you waiting for him to kill you? No court will award you any damages as long as you are still with him. Get out now. It will only get worse.


Please read:





Are you in an abusive relationship?


By Ginny Lund, M.A., L.P., C.E.A.P.





Women often are the victims of domestic violence and other forms of abuse. But, they're not the only ones at risk. Every year in the United States, more than 800,000 men are physically or sexually assaulted by a male or female intimate partner. And, when it happens, men can feel guilt, shame or anger, just as women do.





Beyond arguing


Most relationships go through tough times occasionally, resulting in arguments and tension. But, abuse is different. It's a pattern of one person using fear and intimidation to gain power and control over another. Abuse isn't always physical 鈥?it can include emotional, psychological or economic tactics, as well.





You may be in an abusive relationship if your partner:


Yells, screams or swears at you


Continually criticizes you or embarrasses you with put-downs


Monitors where you go and whom you call


Controls the finances and makes you ask permission to do things


Deprives you of food, transportation or access to health care


Tries to isolate you from family or friends


Throws objects, kicks doors, punches walls or damages your property


Shoves, slaps, bites or hits you


Accuses you of cheating or is jealous often


Manipulates you into unwanted sexual acts or ignores your feelings about sex


Sabotages your job or schoolwork


Threatens to kill you or to commit suicide





It's OK to ask for help


If you've been living with abuse, you may find yourself doubting your own judgment. Men who are abused may not seek help because they're embarrassed or afraid no one will believe them. Or, they may just hope things will get better.





But, abuse often gets worse over time. It can cause chronic health problems, such as post-traumatic stress disorder, depression and headaches. It also can lead to injury or death. Children who witness abuse may develop health and behavioral problems, too.





If you feel threatened by your partner, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for help or visit www.ndvh.org.
you should get a restraining order a.s.a.p and its never ok to let him hit and abuse you. and call the police whenever you see him.
my advice to you is take him to court because this will not stop it will only get worse for you,leave him get this person out of your life,my fear is that if you do not stop him now later on you will bwe put in serious danger by this man and also your life may well be in danger so for your own sake do something about it now rather than later,DON`T HOLD BACK DO SOMETHING NOW.
I am wondering what state you live in that doesn't have an automatic domestic abuse law. So many states have adopted the law so that the abused doesn't have to file charges, the police do.





I think you have to make up your own mind rather to press charges against him or not. There is no reason for abuse and if you allow him to continue I guarantee you that he will. No woman or man should be in an abusive relationship.





I think the legality is secondary. But the thing is that if you press charges against him he will realize you are not going to just take being beat on and there will also be a legal record of abuse incase it happens again....which it probably will. The main thing is you need out of this relationship and find someone who will treat you right. Please, before it is too late.





I wish you the best....
Many women's shelters either employ or recommend their own attorneys who can help you with your issues with compassion and understanding. Call your local crisis line and see.