Legal advice regarding child custody needed urgently please?

my ex partner decided that our son should come and live with me 3 years ago. (her actual words were ';if you dont come and get him he is going into care';)...he was 10 years old then...since then he has lived very happily and is developing into a very bright and responsible young man....his mum waited for 7 months after he moved in with me and my wife and then took me to court for visiting rights...no problem....she is his mum and has the right to see him....she was granted rights and since has done nothing but abuse them...she is ';supposed'; to see him every other weekend but actually only sees him when it suits her...sometimes not for 8 weeks at a time...he is fed up with this and has said he does not want to see her anymore as he is sick of being let down...she is now going back to legal proceedings to reinstate visits....do i have to make him go to her or can he say no and not have to do it...PLEASE..no smart comments...just proper advice...this is very serious for us all as a familyLegal advice regarding child custody needed urgently please?
you need to ask ur solicitor to arrange a mediation meeting where ur son and you can sit and discuss the plans for the future with his mum and he wil be able to speak for himself its not like a court room its more relaxed for your sons benefit. what he says there will be taken down and shown to a judge by the mediation officer and his wishes will be taken seriously . after all the child should not be forced into the visits . good luckLegal advice regarding child custody needed urgently please?
If I'm right in thinking that you are in the UK, your best bet IS to go to court, ask for a mediator or Court welfare officer to talk to your boy and get his side of the story. They may well make him have visits to his Mum but it will show her up as they will know why he hasn't been visiting and the likelyhood is that the visits would be reduced. Don't worry about it, he'll soon be old enough to not have o worry about it anymore.
once he reaches his 14th birthday, he has a say in whether or not he wants to see his mom or not. just make sure he makes use of his rights. your solicitor should tell you this, but might not have because your son is still only 13 and until he turns 14 your son has no say in it.


i hope everything works out for you.
Well in the states a child's opinion is taken into consideration when they are 14, I am not sure what it is there. But I would defiantly bring up her lack of involvement. Get proof if necessary, you can do think through proof that you had him....receipts, movie ticket stubs, witnesses, etc.
I think you should forget about legal measures. What is most important here is the child's interest and not what your ex wife deserves. I think you should tell the boy and keep telling him, that she is his mother, she still loves him and he should love her back. Her missing some visiting dates is not a crime and she could have good reasons. You should also find some good explanations for the boy to accept. But if he is still adamant he does not want to see her, you should not compel him. How ever, do try gently and kindly, to preserve their mother/son relationship. It will be good for the boy's emotional development and happiness in life later. And you will be happy and proud watching him.